They said it was noble. They said I was selfless. What they didn’t say was “thank you” or even ask if I wanted to give up everything I’d worked for to care for our father. So, while they planned my new life for me, I quietly planned a different one. The morning they expected me to move in, someone did show up at Dad’s door—it just wasn’t me. If you’ve ever been the “default” in your family, you’re going to want to hear how I flipped the script—literally.